1.30.2012

Service in the World


In the ManKind Project, I and other MKP men are pushing ourselves to be of service in the world.

How does that look? Many MKP men volunteer their time to causes they believe in, they work in businesses that support their beliefs, they may even create non-profits to create a place for change and service.

For me, I do acts of service in many ways. For the ManKind Project, I am the Northern California Community IT and list-serve man. I staff NWTAs. I lead an MKP IGroup every week.

Outside of MKP, I support causes like the American Heart Association by doing Heart Walks which raise money for research and education to prevent the leading causes of deaths in this country. I also micro-volunteer through Sparked.com.

My latest effort to be of service is to raise money for the Wounded Warrior Project by completing in a Tough Mudder event on September 29, 2012. The WWP does great work providing all manner of no-cost support to returning veterans of the Iraq/Afganistan wars. I support the awesome work they do!

Tough Mudder is a day-long physical and emotional challenge involving all manner of difficult obstacles along a 12 mile course. And yes, there's a ton of mud involved. I am doing the TM to raise money for WWP while celebrating being alive after having open-heart bypass surgery in August, 2010 and turning 50 in September.

My experience with ManKind Project men is that they are passionate about their lives, their families and the world around them.

What are you passionate about?

To help me raise money for the Wounded Warrior Project, please click HERE.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf






1.20.2012

Tough Mudder & Wounded Warrior Project

My wife and I are making up team BraveHearts to take on the NCal Tough Mudder on Sep 22 to celebrate my 50th birthday and being alive 25 months after open heart bypass surgery!

Please support my efforts to raise $500 for the Wounded Warrior Project in conjunction with my Tough Mudder event by contributing HERE.

1.04.2012

Isolation

A ManKind Project man posted this in the Your NWTA and MKP Experience page. I just wanted to give it a bigger audience.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf






I went thru the training in a snow storm in West Virginia at age 57. My Mom and Dad had died earlier that year and even though I was "successful" by all accounts, and had done years of self-awareness and EQ work, there was something missing. I was constantly feeling like I was operating from false bravado, pretending to be capable, but always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I had felt alone most of my life -- I had never felt like I belonged anywhere. That weekend one of my many critical moments was in the sweat. During the 4th round we were asked to simply say to ourselves over and over something we wanted to give up in our life. I began to quietly say over and over to myself -- "I am giving up being alone". As I let the darkness and heat seep into my body I began to believe my words. And suddenly I realized everyone in the sweat was saying the same thing in unison with me -- I don't know if they started it on their own and then we synced up or if they heard me and it struck a chord - it doesn't matter -- in that moment I knew I was not alone.

I have continued my work on myself -- the weekend is only a door, not a journey. I am still working every couple of weeks with an I-Group. I've taken other MKP trainings that have proved equally powerful in differnt ways, and I have staffed a number of NWTA trainings. Each staffing is its own revelation. I think of it more like building an onion by adding layers (I spent a lot of years peeling the onion -- here I have gotten to add the layers I want to add).

In 2007, at a staffing I suddenly realized I felt something I had never before felt and took the time to say it in a large circle of men -- "As a man among men, I belong". If felt as if I belonged there, at that moment. Not to MKP. Not to that circle. To the world and that moment. Having been a Navy brat and moving almost every year of my childhood, I had never felt like I belonged anywhere -- I always felt as if I was a transient. It is an amazing feeling to have -- I can't describe it -- perhaps people who have felt it all their life don't get the big deal, but for me it was life changing.

I continue to define my life's purpose with the help of work in MKP, and have found the power to carry that purpose outside of MKP -- "I create a safe and connected world by leading, listening and mentoring". That sounds rather simplistic when I say the words, yet that mission has empowered me to make a difference in many people's live for the better.

It constantly amazes me how an organization that intentionally has no agenda can so effectively help men find theirs. Well, I guess MKP does have one agenda -- to empower men in their own lives.

Great Bear
Claymont Court, WV
December 2003