Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf
The Lost Art Of Manhood
by Rick Willey
I believe that the true sense of what it means to be a man has been lost or somehow forgotten.
So, While I make no claim as to being the perfect model of a "real" man, I'd like to share my idea of what being a man really is.
Strong enough to be gentle.
Mean enough to be kind.
Honest enough to be hated.
Think about those statements a moment.
Strong enough to be gentle-
What I mean here is that the true strength of a man is in his ability to be gentle when needed, without the macho attitude so many display because they are afraid to be labeled weak if they show emotion. I could also add here the ability to be strong enough to admit his weaknesses, which also falls under the last phrase of honest enough to be hated.
Mean enough to be kind-
Some call it tough love,but sometimes everyone needs a kick in the butt to get straightened out. A real man will be mean enough to tell you about it, strong enough to be gentle about it, and honest enough to make you hate him for it.(until you realize his gift!)
Honest enough to be hated-
The word here is Integrity! Something that I feel is far too scarce in today's fast paced world but I'll save that for another day. Suffice it to say that if you are honest enough that there are people that hate you because of it; You're on your way to being a very good Man!
I'd like to suggest some great books for Men who are interested in improving themselves and our gender as a whole.
- Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man: by Sam Keen.
- King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: by Robert Moore,
- and Iron John: A Book About Men: By Robert Bly