Lost Art Of Manhood

I appreciate a good thought on men and by men. So, today I repost this thought for you.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf

The Lost Art Of Manhood

by Rick Willey

I believe that the true sense of what it means to be a man has been lost or somehow forgotten.
So, While I make no claim as to being the perfect model of a "real" man, I'd like to share my idea of what being a man really is.

Strong enough to be gentle.

Mean enough to be kind.

Honest enough to be hated.

Think about those statements a moment.

Strong enough to be gentle-
What I mean here is that the true strength of a man is in his ability to be gentle when needed, without the macho attitude so many display because they are afraid to be labeled weak if they show emotion. I could also add here the ability to be strong enough to admit his weaknesses, which also falls under the last phrase of honest enough to be hated.

Mean enough to be kind-
Some call it tough love,but sometimes everyone needs a kick in the butt to get straightened out. A real man will be mean enough to tell you about it, strong enough to be gentle about it, and honest enough to make you hate him for it.(until you realize his gift!)

Honest enough to be hated-
The word here is Integrity! Something that I feel is far too scarce in today's fast paced world but I'll save that for another day. Suffice it to say that if you are honest enough that there are people that hate you because of it; You're on your way to being a very good Man!

I'd like to suggest some great books for Men who are interested in improving themselves and our gender as a whole.
  • Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man: by Sam Keen.
  • King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: by Robert Moore,
  • and Iron John: A Book About Men: By Robert Bly
Another great Mens resource is The Mankind Project http://www.mkp.org/. Men used to go through an initiation process that many youngsters seek out in vain by joining gangs or the Military. Both fall short of the mark. We need to once again mentor our young Boys (as well as some older men) to become REAL MEN!


What is Men's Work?

"We don't need to sit around and tell each other 'We're fine the way we are.' Nor do we need to beat ourselves up for our real and imagined shortcomings. What men's work asks us to do is tell our real stories. It asks us to be honest about the source of the pressures and anxieties so many of us feel and too few of us articulate. And once we've laid the truth out on the table, men's work invites us to support each other in taking positive action to change our lives and to change the world in which we live. But we can't move directly to the action without first telling each other the truth. And at its core, the goal of all men's work is to help men do just that."

Hugo Schwyzer

I find it somewhat difficult sometimes to explain to men what "men's work" is to me. This quote pretty much sums it up. The ManKind Project is the place I can do my "men's work" with other men who are working.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf


Never Giving Up

"Being a warrior has nothing to do with waging war. Being a warrior means you have the courage to know who you are. Warriors never give up on anyone, including themselves."

Sacred World: The Shambhala Way to Gentleness, Bravery, and Power (ISBN: 1570623619)

Being an initiated New Warrior (a man who has completed the NWTA) means nothing if I don't live my life in service to my mission. A warrior knows his mission and knows what needs to be done to stay on task with that mission.

Do you have a mission? Maybe MKP can help you with that...maybe it can't...that's up to you to step into.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf


Happy of Myself

I hear this boy's joy!

I wonder what this world would be like if we were all allowed to have our joy in such an unbridled way?

Are you willing to feel your joy and live in the joy this boy is feeling?

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf