9.24.2010

For My Poppy



Men have been tough and strong men for ages. Nothing new there. Rarely do men touch so many with so much as my Poppy did.

Victor Larson, my Poppy, led a life of hard work and with the toughest of determination. He was the toughest man I ever knew. He was tough mentally. He was tough in his beliefs. He was a man, deep and true. He had a love for tennis, deep and complicated finance, family, and his spiritual faith.

He was not perfect. He had flaws, mistakes, and pasts that haunted him. He made amends where he could and where he couldn't, well, that was his business, not mine.

He was taken from us this morning at 4.55 a.m. Brain cancer overcame him after 18 months of busting his ass to fight it. He never gave up. EVER. He fought with all he had and with great valor, courage, and grace.

So, I dedicate the video above to him; for he was a brave man to the end.

Victor Larson
Victor Larson
Victor Larson

Aho!

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf

9.17.2010

Wonderful Pockmarks

"We all leave childhood with wounds. In time, we may transform our liabilities into gifts. The faults that pockmark the psyche may become the source of a man's beauty. The injuries we have suffered invite us to assume the most human of all vocations - to heal ourselves and others."

Sam Keen


The "pockmarks" that are the "source of our beauty" is what makes us men.

Men have their own special needs in this society.

One of those needs is that of men in the tribe or community or family taking interest in us as a young man and guiding us to manhood. That has sadly gone missing in the industrial age we live in now.

The older men are working all day or gone from the house. The community is scattered and we may hardly, or not at all, know our neighbors. The activities we partake in as young men may only be populated with our peers who know as little as we do about how to be a man. We cannot learn to be men from other boys/young men or from girls/young women.

Can you remember a time when a man took an interest in you and your life? When a man guided you with honor and compassion and wisdom.

When you attend the New Warrior Training Adventure, you will be surrounded with men who are interested, not invested, in your journey. You will see what it looks like to have men of community who want you to have the world you want. You will see what it looks like to have other men stand with you to give a place for you to get what you need.

I'm out.
Bravehearted Old-faithful Wolf

9.15.2010

Not Without Your Permisson

"To fear rejection is to believe insufficiently in the self. For a self that is whole seeks to share its gifts with others, while a self that is doubting must receive these gifts from the world."

Julie Redstone, from Meditations on Love, Relationships, and Letting Go; #88.

Fearing rejection...man, they teach that in schools all over the world. Get this grade or wear this or walk like this or talk like that or drive this or be angry or be whatever to fit in and stay away from being rejected.

Rejection can come in many forms and in many venues, but the bottom line is rejection comes from within. One allows it in and allows it to be a part of life. If you see the world as a place that is rejecting you, then you need to take a look at how you see the world. No one can reject you without your permission.

Can the NWTA change that thinking, or any other thinking, for you? Not likely. The NWTA is a place, an event if you will, to start talking a look at how you show up in the world. It is an opportunity to spend 48 hours looking at what works for you and what doesn't in the presence of men who have also done this work.

I'm just sayin'...

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

9.11.2010

9.07.2010

Wishing To Be a Warrior

"To be a warrior is not a simple matter of wishing to be one. It is rather an endless struggle that will go on to the very last moment of our lives. Nobody is born a warrior, in exactly the same way that nobody is born an average man. We make ourselves into one or the other."

Carlos Castaneda


Look, you cannot wish to be anything, let alone a warrior. This is about action, not dreaming.

Now, I am all for making the dream you have in your head happen. Dreaming is what gets us to humans on Mars and curing cancer. But dreaming alone is just a nice thought.

So, you can be whatever you dream. This I know for certain. I know because I have dreamed many things and many of those have taken action to become realities. Never has any dream or wish I had come true without action of some sort.

One could argue that a dream or wish is an action. And maybe that is correct in that an action is made to think of the dream or wish.

Here's what I know. You want to have different life or circumstance, then you are going to have to haul your ass up and make it happen. Will it be easy or hard? How will you know if you don't do it.

One way is to get your ass to a New Warrior Training Adventure. Another is to sit in a ManKind Project weekly IGroup where real life men (not Hollywood caricatures) deal with everyday life and times.

Oh and one other thing....trying is not doing. Trying is tap dancing around doing.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf