Being Involved

I listened to this because I am from Southern Michigan; born at University of Michigan hospital.

What I found by listening for 32 minutes was I learned a little about me....that I live the life of a man who vies against what he sees around him to step into being involved; by participating.

I am involved by: homeschooling my girls; supporting my wife in her dreams and her efforts to homeschool our girls; breathing, supporting, and living a life of no excuses; writing this blog; listening to men in my IGroup who have differing views, hearing them, and being with that without judgment; doing radio talks on the ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure; staffing and being a part of my Northern California MKP community.

I wonder where you participate and where you "stand" when "standing" is all there is?

I wonder when it became OK to be not nice and not civil and not respectful?

Thank you, Creator, for pointing me to this video on this day and time....I needed it.

Do you need it?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

"The point is, when we don't pay close attention to the decisions made by our leaders; when we fail to educate ourselves about the major issues of the day; when we choose not to make our voices and opinions heard, that's when democracy breaks down. That's when power is abused. That's when the most extreme voices in our society fill the void that we leave. That's when powerful interests and their lobbyists are most able to buy access and influence in the corridors of Washington - because none of us are there to speak up and stop them.

Participation in public life doesn't mean that you all have to run for public office - though we could certainly use some fresh faces in Washington. But it does mean that you should pay attention and contribute in any way that you can. Stay informed. Write letters, or make phone calls on behalf of an issue you care about. If electoral politics isn't your thing, continue the tradition so many of you started here at Michigan and find a way to serve your community and your country - an act that will help you stay connected to your fellow citizens and improve the lives of those around you."

President Barack Obama, May 1, 2010 at the Big House, University of Michigan Commencement


For All of Us

"For every girl who is tired of acting weak when she is strong, there is a boy tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable.

For every boy who is burdened with the constant expectation of knowing everything, there is a girl tired of people not trusting her intelligence.

For every girl who is tired of being called over-sensitive, there is a boy who fears to be gentle, to weep.

For every boy for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity, there is a girl who is called unfeminine when she competes.

For every girl who throws out her e-z-bake oven, there is a boy who wishes to find one.

For every boy struggling not to let advertising dictate his desires, there is a girl facing the ad industry’s attacks on her self-esteem.

For every girl who takes a step toward her liberation, there is a boy who finds the way to freedom a little easier."

In the ManKind Project, we challenge ourselves and you to look at these issues and work to keep them in our hearts and minds...as this is how we change the world one man at a time.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Stand By Our Warriors

"Wounded Warrior Project (WWP) is a nonprofit organization whose mission is to honor and empower wounded warriors. WWP serves to raise awareness and enlist the publics aid for the needs of severely injured service men and women, to help severely injured service members aid and assist each other and to provide unique, direct programs and services to meet their needs."

Men's work is standing up for what is right. You don't have to be for the war to support the soldiers...stand by them.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Are You Living in a Cotton-Wool Tunnel?

You may have seen news about Abby Sunderland, a sixteen year-old sailor attempting to circumnavigate the globe and running into trouble in the Indian Ocean.

Her father, Laurence Sunderland, tells AP in response to criticism that it was far too dangerous to allow a 16-year-old to sail around the world by herself....."Sailing and life in general is dangerous. Teenagers drive cars. Does that mean teenagers shouldn't drive a car? I think people who hold that opinion have lost their zeal for life. They're living in a cotton-wool tunnel to make everything safe."

My family is a home-school family....so Papa Laurence...I can relate!

In the ManKind Project, I see men living outside the tunnel. I see men living lives worth living. I see men stretching past the nay-saying voices from those who have lost their zeal for life.

I am doing that with my family by home-schooling my two girls. I am doing that by trading on the Forex Market. I am doing that by typing this entry.

I am asking you to step into the world of risk; step into a space where you are welcome to be who you are; step into a space where you are encouraged and supported to be more.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

AP Photo/Richard Hartog/file


Who Do I Serve?

Below is an article I ran across that talks about the NWTA. I am posting here in case it disappears one day.

Oh and it gives me a chance to readdress the "secrecy" issue around the NWTA.

It isn't secret, so much as it is sacred. I believe that telling you what happens on the training will alter your path on the weekend. It will change your experience for me to tell even one detail. I want you to have the truest experience for you.

Here's what I will tell you; you get there...you will leave two days later...you will be different.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

So what is being a man all about anyway?

By Jocelyn Newmarch
Posted on IAfrica.com, September 16, 2002

You’ve probably heard this old joke. “Why can’t I find a man who’s loving, sensitive, affectionate and caring?” “Because, dear, those men already have boyfriends.” If this hits home, there is hope.

It’s a cliche that men are emotionally illiterate, that they’re commitment phobic and unable to express their feelings. Several commentators — ardent feminist Germaine Greer among them — have noted a “crisis of masculinity” in recent years, and to address this, the men’s movement has spearheaded attempts to redefine, or reaffirm masculinity in a positive light. The ManKind Project began in 1985, in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, with 17 men. Since then, nearly 30 000 men, on four continents, have been initiated into the New Warrior programme. Integrity and accountability are core values of the movement.

Who am I, as a man? What am I doing here? What’s my mission in life? Who do I serve? Men are challenged to ask these questions and begin to answer them on the weekend.

The ManKind Project’s motto is “Changing the world, one man at a time,” and that’s exactly what they set out to do with their New Warrior Training weekends, teaching South African manne to get in touch with their feelings and embrace the warrior inside.

As one New Warrior, Michael Wetzler, explains, it’s about “being a warrior in a new kind of way, facing up the shadows in your being. Men are wounded and we aren’t fathered well enough, however much our fathers wanted to.”

The brochure proclaims that “the ManKind project offers men the opportunity to look deeper into their lives and make healthy choices about their future.”

Participants and their partners alike have nothing but praise for the program.

New Warrior Tetile, one of 33 who were recently initiated, said that he would definitely recommend the course to others. “Many men are walking around with empty spaces, they want to fill it up with things they don’t even know. Then you get to the course (the New Warrior Training), and you are walking around with a dragon in your body, and that scares you. So you need to pull out that dragon, then you find yourself and you have a new vision for the whole world.”

Andries du Toit, Centre Director for the ManKind Project in South Africa, says that when he was a little boy, he was taught that “a man is somebody who’s big and strong and tough and that means he doesn’t show his feelings — in fact he doesn’t have feelings.

"A man is someone who can take a beating and who can give one too, especially those who are smaller and younger. A man is someone who pushes women around.

"I don’t know about you," he adds, "but those lessons weren’t very helpful to me, or to these 33 men (the initiates) who have pledged to do things differently.”

So what actually happens on this course? Well, the details are kept secret, but I can reveal that the program includes journalling, games, and guided imagery visualisations.


Weekly Circles of Men -- Integration Groups

"What goes on inside these circles is no great mystery and in some ways quite simple. Men are simply telling each other the truths in their lives. They are telling each other about their anger, how and who they love, what they fear and what they are ashamed of. They are telling each other what gives them joy and how they have been hurt. Put simply, they are building containers of trust where they feel safe enough to explore together how they feel. Many, perhaps for the first time in their lives are developing relationships with other men based not on competition, but in trust."

Extracted from The Inside Circle; the Inside Circle, in very basic terms, is a New Warrior Training Adventure-style training done behind prison walls. It was created and supported by men for men behind prison walls; ManKind Project men, paroled men, inside men....men.

The description above is the essence of ManKind Project Integration Groups (iGroups).

Read the description again, I couldn't say it any better.

Every night of the week, men meet to sit in iGroup circles to discover and reach the places of change that they decide is for them.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf