Life Is Now

"Your life is now
Your life is now
Your life is now
In this undiscovered moment
Lift your head up above the crowd
We could shake this world
If you would only show us how
Your life is now"

John Mellencamp; Your Life Is Now; 1998

The time is now. You are who you are in this moment, but the next is coming.

Are you prepared to continue living in the past as a man you have become; not the man you wanted to become?

It is time for you to look at what is in your life. It is time to take stock of all the moments you have left something on the table from fear. It is time to collect up your entire life and lay it bare to look at. It is time to look at who you are and where you are.

Is it time to let life go on as it is or is it time to live life now?

ManKind Project men are waiting for you.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Making it to Today

I love this e-mail that came to me. See, I am of the generation that played outside and fell out of trees and stayed outside until dark every night.

I have some sadness that there are parts of this that are great and parts that are not-so-great. Also, there is joy in remembering what a joyful place my childhood was, at times. Some of those parts, good and not-so-good, I deal with every week in my ManKind Project iGroup.

Well, at least I made it to today!

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED the 1930's, 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's!!

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, booster seats, seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank Kool-aid made with sugar, but we weren't overweight because, WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or chat rooms....... WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them!

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!

The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL!

If YOU are one of them CONGRATULATIONS!

You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good.

While you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave (and lucky) their parents were.

Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it?!


iGroup Statement

"The group is about helping men find their magnificence, their wonder, and their power. Yes, we look at all the parts of us and that includes looking at our shadows. In the end, we are focused on knowing who we truly are and maximizing the best of us."

This is the introduction paragraph to my iGroup's Web site. It states what you can find in an iGroup after attending the NWTA.

I find my magnificence here so I can take it out into the world. I intergrate my iGroup work into my life. I laugh, cry, listen, hear, lead, follow, stammer, fall, rise, shut down, open up, and live in all these parts of me.

Would you like a place in your life that was this safe?

Men are waiting for you to step into yourself. Men are waiting to see who you really are and who you can really be. How long will you keep us waiting?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Un-Comfortably Numb

"When I was a child
I caught a fleeting glimpse
Out of the corner of my eye.
I turned to look but it was gone

I cannot put my finger on it now
The child is grown,
The dream is gone.
but I have become comfortably numb."

Comfortably Numb by Pink Floyd, from the The Wall, 1979

Becoming comfortably numb...hmmmm...I had to think a lot about that one. I think it really is more like uncomfortably numb.

Allowing yourself to become numb is not a comfortable place to be. I have found it to be anxiety ridden and very limiting. It can be debilitating in it's grip. Certainly not comfortable!

Taking a look at works for you, and doesn't, may be uncomfortable, but there is much to be gained. Staying stuck in the place where your dream is gone is a tragedy.

In the ManKind Project, men look at what works and what doesn't for each man. The changes may be uncomfortable at first, but in the bigger picture, wouldn't you rather be who you came here to be and be supported in that?

Men are here and waiting to be of service; to support you and your dreams. I am one of them.

Is it time?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf