11.25.2009

Don't Be Fooled

On returning from the MKP NWTA in Northern California this last weekend, I remembered a poem that a co-leader man on the training shared on Friday morning before the initiate men came up the mountain for the training (see below).

I wanted to share it with you because it reminds me that men often say "fine" when asked how they "are."

Deep down, honestly ask yourself this, how many times have you said "fine" and you felt lousy, scared, alone, angry, loving, joyful, tender, alive, free, shameful, determined, alienated, frustrated, etc.? How many times do you choose to say fine when you really want someone to know that you are _______ (fill in the blank)? Get the picture?

MKP is about men finding the deeper stuff that is standing in the way of being alive in the world. It's about you being you, not pretending or hiding "you" behind words or actions.

I challenge you to step into the NWTA and see what is there for you.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

I Scream Out To You

By Mark D. Worthen, PsyD, Center Administrator, MKP-InterMountain Center

I scream out to you in a whisper of sorrow:
Hear me, please hear me.

Because I will declare to you,
"I'm fine, really I am."

Don't be fooled.
I am a deep blue lake,
frozen hard.

You do not need to assault me with your ice pick;
You do not need to--nor could you--melt me with your intensity torch;
No, you need only look for the thin cracks in the ice,
And the whisps of steam emanating from the
Glorious spring of sublime masculinity which yearns from below.

11.18.2009

Staffing the NCal November NWTA, Part 7; 85 men

An on-going series of posts around my staffing of the next MKP NWTA in Northern California. I thought it would be interesting and enlightening to follow how this all works and you'll get to ride along on what it looks like to put on an NWTA from one man's experience...mine.

There are no words that I can use to express my gratitude and love for the men on the November Northern California MKP NWTA.

We came together on Thursday evening to create space for 35 men to complete their NWTA. 35 men came and 35 men got what they came for.

I saw 35 Uninitiated Men step into the hardest, deepest stuff one can imagine. I saw 40 Staff Men put up their best to be there for the new Initiated Men. I saw 10 Men of Service men feed all of us with great love and care. I saw amazing things.

When we all walked away on Sunday, I saw 85 changed men. 85 men who came together to share an experience that words cannot describe. 85 men who walk and speak and feel differently than they did just a few days ago.

Are you the next next man?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

11.09.2009

Staffing the NCal November NWTA, Part 6

An on-going series of posts around my staffing of the next MKP NWTA in Northern California. I thought it would be interesting and enlightening to follow how this all works and you'll get to ride along on what it looks like to put on an NWTA from one man's experience...mine.

I love this scuplture. It looks to me like a man who has just completed the NWTA and has taken off the mask he has worn his whole life.

Three days to go and I head up the mountain to welcome 35 men to the NWTA.

I am feeling strong and committed. I know this work changes men's lives. I have seen it year after year.

I am asking you, now. When are you going to step into changing the way you are in the world? Look we are here to support you. We have done and seen it all. Nothing you have done is going to frighten us away from supporting you.

When, my brother, will you stop running and step into change. Is it today?

See you in part 7!

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

11.02.2009

Mentoring

I love this piece from a fellow initiated man at his blog; love freely.

Being a part of the ManKind Project means I can participate at different levels. I can; attend my weekly iGroup and do my personal work there; staff an NWTA to strengthen my bond with men who are going through the process of staffing or training; contribute to my blog here to give MKP a this man's presence/experience on the Internet; open myself to the leadership opportunities within MKP; attend other trainings that go beyond NWTA; whatever my choices, they are mine and I can own that.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

"One of the many stages in the journey to become a certified leader in the Mankind Project is to get an existing leader to mentor you. Over the years I've had many leaders suggest to me that I move onto the leader track, and implicitly they've all been options as mentors for me.

In making the difficult choice of whom to approach, I considered many criteria - who did I most get on with, whom did I admire the most, who's style did I like etc. etc. Finally, I went with my gut, and my gut chose the one I was most scared of - let's call him M. Funny that.

I called him up, and after some very probing questions M agreed to mentor me. I asked him what his terms were, and M said he only had two rules:

Don't waste my f**king time
Don't waste your f**king time

... and then I knew my gut had chosen well."