Take a Good Hard Look in the Mirror

Today, I am reposting an informative piece from Glenn Andert of New Zealand. His blog post speaks to why men take the New Warrior Training Adventure; and why he thinks you should.

I like it, so here ya go.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Wellington Training Asks Kiwi Men to Take a Good Hard Look in the Mirror.

Why This is Newsworthy?

We’ve been changing the world, one man at a time, for about 20 years now. At last count, about 40,000 men worldwide. So, it’s boring, really. Well, unless you think the world needs more men with accountability and integrity. You know, a man that

  • is fully accountable for his actions and their consequences,
  • stands up and takes full responsibility for his life,
  • steps forward as a man without apologizing for who he is,
  • and has an open heart and compassionate mindfulness.

Who is behind this?

The New Zealand Mankind Project. Never heard of us? Not surprising - branding is for cows, not men.

What is this all about?

This is a training by men for men, and about being a man:

    A man has a connection to his feelings - he
  • connects with his feelings with his feet on the ground,
  • can clarify his feelings and express those feelings directly and authentically,
  • balances the depth of his heart with the wisdom of his mind,
  • and is authentic.
    A man is a leader - he
  • steps up to lead or mentor,
  • puts himself on the line and takes risks, with the courage to be vulnerable,
  • is fully alive and present,
  • gives his gifts to the world with a sense of purpose and clarity,
    with neither apology nor arrogance.
    A man steps into his relationships fully - he is able to
  • commit
  • be intimate
  • listen with his heart
  • speak his deepest truth

And it’s about being welcomed into a community of men governed by honesty, integrity and a level of trust that most men never know.

If that’s too kinky for you, go ahead stay a neanderthal.

Who the Hell Cares About This #$%* Anyway?

Let’s see, Mr Neanderthal’s partner seems to really “get this”. In fact, her response is “duh, it’s about time”. Then there are the folks that have to work with Mr. Neanderthal. And did I mention Mr. Neanderthal’s poor kids?

Does Anybody Say Good Things About This?

There are some awesome video testimonials at the MKP website.

Here are some text testimonials from men that have attended the training:

I went through my weekend in 1997. Its the most life altering experience I’ve had. Over the years the empowerment has spread to every part of my life. I am very, very happy with the life I have created.”- Burt W.

The New Warrior Training Adventure was a turning point in my life. I really noticed how I felt different crossing the threshold of my home Sunday night. I felt a depth of gratitude, responsibility, and love for myself, my family, job, and friends well up within me. I could see more clearly how I needed to live in the world around me. My confusion, emptiness, and aloneness had cleared. I began to trust in a deeper part of myself that I always sensed, but couldn’t act upon in my day to day living. It was truly wonderful to make the journey with others, and receive the support from so many men. I had never experienced this much trust and love from men in the past.” - Sean Niland

Some text testimonials from the partners of men that have attended:

I wish more money went into things like New Warrior instead of prison growth. If the court sentenced men to a weekend, the world would become a different place. The Mankind Project saved our marriage & I believe it saved Scott’s life. I am a true believer! This works. I hope more men make the decision to give themselves the gift. That’s what it is, a gift.” - Camille Darkes

My husband came in the front door and looked into my eyes and stayed there long enough to see my heart and soul. He’s never done this in our 18 years of marriage. This makes me feel so close and loved by him. Our 6-year-old daughter told me that daddy feels soft and more cuddly. I really appreciate the staff for giving me back my husband.” - a wife at an NWTA graduation

There are more testimonials and newspaper articles here and here.

Where is this?

I wish I could say that it is at our new 5-star resort for the new man. Sorry. Toughen up blokes - it’s at Camp Wainui in Wainuiomata, east of Wellington and Hutt Cities.

When is it?

The weekend of September 26-28. A whole weekend? Hey, it takes time to thaw out your average Neanderthal.

Does this Service Cost Money?

We have to pay for a place for you to sleep, the food you are going to eat, etc, etc. So, yes, there is a fee. That said, we won’t turn away a man that wants to come but can’t afford it.

More Information?

The ManKind Project is a not-for-profit, non-religious organisation. Call free 0800 MANKIND (0800 626 5463) or go to the website www.mkp.org.nz.

For further information contact Glenn Andert (Wellington), 027.354.4950.


Mr. Obama Goes to Washington

"On this day, we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.

On this day, we come to proclaim an end to the petty grievances and false promises, the recriminations and worn out dogmas, that for far too long have strangled our politics.

We remain a young nation, but in the words of Scripture, the time has come to set aside childish things. The time has come to reaffirm our enduring spirit; to choose our better history; to carry forward that precious gift, that noble idea, passed on from generation to generation: the God-given promise that all are equal, all are free and all deserve a chance to pursue their full measure of happiness."

United States President Barack Obama, Inaugural Address, 01.20.2009


President Obama,

May you stand tall and remember who you serve.

May you learn to hear all those around you.

May you be at peace and see the peaceful way.

May you know in your heart that you are a scared creature just as I am and every other person is.

May you know that change for change's sake is not all we need.

May you know deep compassion for all around you.

May you wield your sword with extreme and measured caution.

May you remember that others will cast their fears, anger, shame, hope, sadness, judgments, and joy upon you without your permission.

May you know that even as you are a historic figure, you are first a man.

May you know that as a ManKind Project man, I honor your path and I hold you to the same standards I hold myself.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Passion & Joy

Let's start with, I am not a football fan. It's not my game.

But in the ManKind Project, I have learned that every man's journey is sacred...even when it has no apparent comparison to mine.

Football is this man's game, obviously. I see the passion and joy he is feeling and I can see the release he is feeling in getting, with his teammates, to the 2009 NFL Super Bowl game.

I know nothing else about this man and his journey, but I can honor his path in that I can see his joy. And joy is what is often missing in a man's life.

Come to the New Warrior Training Adventure, find your passion, your joy. Maybe it's waiting there.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Seven Happy Gems

This piece from Very Happy Phil (gotta love this man's blog title) tells how he encounters the ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


7 Happy Gems! New Warrior Training!
from Very Happy Phil

Here are a few of the things which happy people have been proven to have;
1) Meaningful purpose
2) Goals
3) Supportive unconditionally loving friend(s)
4) Awareness of feelings
5) Acceptance of all feelings/emotion (positive and non positive)
6) Self love
7) Learn knowledge to increase happiness

I found all of these seven happy gems by doing New Warrior Training!

In particular this is what I got from the Mankind Project’s New Warrior weekend training and the optional weekly meetings;

a) The weekend helped me refine and develop my mission and purpose in life
b) The weekend helped me to love myself more.
c) Discuss my mission, goals and feelings on a weekly basis with wise, loving, friends
d) Make new friends and feel as close to them after 3 meetings as people I have known for years
e) Spent time every week with people where all emotional are welcome; mad, sad, bad, glad, shame etc
f) Learn new knowledge to help increase my happiness and live a joyful and meaningful life
g) Opportunity to help others increase their love and happiness and volunteer my time to create a happy loving world
h) I feel the weekly meetings are one of the best uses on my time one night a week.
i) I feel this is one of the best things I have done to benefit me and ultimately others
j) I like the love, support and hugs I get every week from other warriors
k) I enjoy the weekly meetings one night a week and no alcohol in sight!

Here are a few of my favourite quotes which inspire me;

“In 22 years as a professional footballer I reached some incredible emotional highs. I thought I had expercianced it all. I was wrong. Apart from the birth of my two children, the New Warrior Training Adventure was the most powerful, fantastic, inspiring experience of my life. I would urge every man to enrol. It will amaze you”
-Lee Dixon, Double League Winner, Former Arsenal & England Team Football Player

“Most people try to “control” their feelings and the way they do this is usually to move through the four R’s and resist, resent, reject and repress. Repressing your feelings does not eliminate them. Feelings never die. It takes a tremendous amount of emotional and physical energy to hold down your emotions.”
-Dr John Gray ‘What you feel you can heal’

“What we resist persists. The more we resist, the more stuck we become. And what we refuse to feel never goes away. When we summon the courage to release that resistance, we find joy.”
–Raphael Cushnir, author, ‘Unconditional Bliss: Finding happiness in the face of hardship’

“Beautiful people do not just happen.”
-Dr. Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross

Clinical Psychologist Dr Sophie Henshaw recently recommended MKP course to one of her clients.

“Today I spoke to a friend I had not spoken to for some time. We chatted about some development work he had done which was a great way for me to get around to telling him about MKP(Mankind Project).

I explained that in modern society we have perhaps lost male initiation. I described how the elders of tribes would take the young boys from their mothers and take them into the wild and initiate them. This would allow them the knowledge that there are greater forces than themselves and install into them the sacred wisdom of their tribe and society, thus making them warriors and of use as men. Without this the tribe would not be able to survive.

I then went onto explain how during the Victorian times women were put down. Now men are humble and scared and shamed to stand and express their anger, their primal urges and be the warriors we know we are inside.

The NWTA hits this square in the face and supports a global community of New Warriors who work from love and clear intention allowing us to continue the work into our lives and communities on a continual basis.

All of this is in my judgement.”
-Will McIntosh

If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem

If you are happy, I think new warrior training will boost your happiness!
If you are unhappy, I think new warrior training will help!

It is my mission to create a world of love and happiness which is why I shared this information with you. If you are a man or woman I recommend this course. If you know a man or woman, I recommend sending them information about this course! Any questions, feel free to email me.

Some info;
a) MKP is a non profit organization!
b) I make no money from you doing the course!
c) If you do the full weekend training and want your money back you can!
d) Weekly meetings are free if you host them in someones house!

If interested in the New Warrior Training for men click here; http://www.mkp.org/ (USA)
http://uk.mkp.org/ (UK)

If interested in the New Warrior Training for women click here; http://www.womanwithin.org/


Keep positive!

Love & hug,

Very Happy Phil McNally, Author of ‘Winning Mentality’, Training; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (Dr Russ Harris MD), Happier (Tal Ben-Shahar Ph.D.), Authentic Happiness (Prof Martin Seligman), Art of Happiness (Dr Howard Cutler MD), Happiness NOW (Dr Robert Holden PhD.), Happiness (Monk Mattiew Riccard) and New Warrior.

“Happy people have purpose, goals, self love, awareness and acceptance of emotions, happiness knowledge and supportive loving friends!”
– Very Happy Phil McNally