Be of Service

For almost four years, I have been posting about mine and other men's experiences in the ManKind Project. It has been a blast to be of service in this way.

Next year, I hope you will take the time to look at where you can be of service; to you, your family, the world, whatever and wherever.

The New Warrior Training Adventure will change your life and it will change how you see yourself in the world. That alone would be a great place to be of service to yourself and others.

Hope to see you next year and maybe one day you and I can meet.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Men Will Come

ManKind Project man Bill Stech talks about his first experience staffing MKP’s New Warrior Training Adventure. If you can't see the video below, click here.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


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A Man & I-Group

ManKind Project man Mark Payne takes the risk to share personal experiences from his I-Group. If you can't see the video below, click here.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


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I Just Stand

"After you've done all you can
After you've gone through the hurt
After you've gone through the pain
After you've gone through the storm
After you've gone through the rain
Prayed and cried, you've prayed and cried
Prayed and cried, prayed and cried
After you've done all you can, you just stand."

From Donnie McClurkin, Stand, 1996


There are times in my day when I stand in my pain. I just stand because there is nothing else. I choose to stand in it.

There was a time, before my New Warrior Training Adventure initiation, that I would try every means possible to run from my pain. I would work or talk or watch way too much TV or eat.

Now, I stand in it. It is part of my past. It is part of my cells. It is what brought me here, in this place and time.

Come stand in it with me and the other men who wait to see you in your truth.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Integrity With Your Word?

What does it mean to you to be in integrity with your word?

I asked this question in my reader survey over the last week. Here's some unedited responses:

¬ For me, to be in integrity with my word means to keep, and be true to the intent of, my committments and agreements with others and with myself.
¬ I do what I say I'm going to do, or I consciously choose to re-negotiate my agreement. The consequence of this is that others see me as reliable and trustworthy, and can count on me to model consistency and congruity.
¬ I can live with myself.
¬ It means I do what I say...or I come back to you and change what I need before I can't make my commitment.
¬ I follow throught with what I say I will do. And I renegotiate when nessasary.
Integrity, for me, means that my actions align with what I say I am going to do. To be in integrity with myself, the men in my circle, and everyone else in the rest of my world, means that I have done what I said or agreed to do.

The ManKind Project is not here to police your integrity. The ManKind Project is about men taking notice of where they live their lives out of integrity. Other men may help you see where that is, if you aren't seeing it yourself.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


What Spirit Is, Man Can Be

I love when I find good info on the Web about the ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure.

Today, I found a great news/informational video from the United Kingdom MKP center and it speaks to how the NWTA works within the context of the ManKind Project.

Watch the piece here.

I hope you will take a short seven minutes to change your world.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf



Today, I post a repost of a MKP man Gregory Meyer's blog post about his experience in MKP.

Are you the starfish I will throw in the ocean, today?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


The Starfish Story

I am making the world a better place, one man at a time. I’m part of an international organization called The ManKind Project. More locally, I’m an active member in ManKind Project New England. We held a New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA) this weekend. We initiated men.

What does this mean? We create a safe place for men to be themselves (maybe for the first time) and to work with some of the “stuff” that doesn’t truly work in their lives. We give men an opportunity to live from a place of integrity and accountability. We give men an opportunity to become empowered in their lives.

Simply stated, we all (men and women) have baggage. Some have more than others. Often and many times, this baggage gets in our way in our lives. Going through a NWTA weekend gives men the opportunity to look at this baggage in a new light. Whatever a man brings, it is welcome here.

Many men haven’t acknowledged a feeling for a very long time. We help them see this and offer them some skills to work with those feelings. Again, this can be a first for men. It’s wonderful to watch men peel back the layers, tear down the walls and get to the true beauty that lies within each of them.

This is the short course on what happens at an NWTA weekend. There’s much more to it. It’s beautiful and brilliant and transformative. I am passionate about this work. It makes a difference. I make a difference.

Most everyone has heard the story about a young man on a beach throwing starfish back into the ocean. If he doesn’t throw the starfish back in the ocean, the starfish will die. An older man tells the young man that he can’t possibly make a difference when there are miles and miles of beach with starfish all along it. In response, the young man throws another starfish in the ocean and says, “I made a difference to that one.”

I initiate men. I sit in a circle of men every Thursday night. I share my feelings. I model vulnerability. I model leadership. I help men see their blind spots. I help men see their shadows. I help men see their gold. I help men transcend their old beliefs to be more effective in their lives. I help men. I can’t reach all of them, but I can and do make a difference “to that one.”

With inspiration, humility and great love,