A Process of Healing One Man at a Time
from Journeyman; a MirrorMan Films documentary
"If we do not initiate the boys, they will burn the village down." African proverb
To achieve authentic manhood, men and boys must first learn nurture and validate themselves from the inside so that they can truly accept that they are good enough. But usually boys and men will need unconditional acceptance from the outside before they can incorporated that knowing into their core. The first step into this deeper world is learning and practicing emotional awareness. Men and boys need to know their own feelings and intuitions. Next comes a process of “uncovering” the soul from disabling family and cultural baggage. Here is where men and boys identify the masks they wear as well as the costs these masks have had. Now they have a chance to see themselves and their unique gifts in a deep way. With this clarity they can begin to get a more complex understanding of how the larger culture works, and how to integrate their gifts into the new world they see. This leaves them free and empowered to give services to society that spring naturally from honoring their own creative calls. They can balance this with a realistic understanding of limitations and responsibilities.
In the ManKind Project, men take up a space to learn these very tools, as stated above. This is not voodoo or magic; it's the way boys learn to be men.
Being emotionally aware means you stop and listen to your feelings, your heart, and your intention before you "burn down the village." It means you are accountable for your actions; not from the outside, but from within yourself. In yourself is where real accountability lies.
What are you waiting for?