What Has Gone Undiscovered

I am fascinated with the Mars Rover program that landed some 45 months ago on Mars.

Could it be that the rovers, that were supposed to last only three months, are simply indestructible. Not likely.

But, it is s very special to think that in the time that they have driven at a snail-like pace a combined 11.7 miles we have seen a great deal of life pass by here on Earth.

Forty-five months is a long time. In that time, my new baby girl was conceived and born, I changed jobs, I saw my oldest girl get married, my Marine son-in-law completed two tours in Iraq (and will return next week back home, in one piece), I reached ten wonderful married years with my sweet partner, I created a new iGroup in my town, and another three thousand men have gone through the New Warrior Training Adventure.

All the while, these two little machines are busy trundling around the Mars surface discovering what has since gone undiscovered.

In that time, I wonder what you discovered about you. Did you discover that you need the friendship of, mentorship of, and community of men you can trust?

Come with me and discover what has gone undiscovered.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


Cross to the Opposite Side

"In the middle of the night
I go walking in my sleep
From the mountains of faith
To the river so deep
I must be looking for something
Something sacred I lost
But the river is wide
And it's too hard to cross

And even though I know the river is wide
I walk down every evening and stand on the shore
I try to cross to the opposite side
So I can finally find what I've been looking for"

The River Of Dreams, Billy Joel, 1993


I gotta tell ya, being on the other side is so much better than where I was before.

For years I stood on the side of the river wondering what all the sadness and pain was about. I thought "is this it?" Is this all there is to life; puttering along with the status quo?

One night in October of 1999, I made the cross to the opposite side of the river.

Men, trustworthy men, were there to bless my journey and to say "I see you and your value." They stood with me while I challenged my life and my body to be better than I ever was.

These men, ManKind Project men, were men just like me that had made the crossing ahead of me.

Now, I am one of those men that has made the crossing ahead of you. Now, I hold the space for you to come and look at your life; to challenge yourself to be better than you could ever imagine.

I see you and you have value. Make the crossing. It's not too hard.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf


A Process of Healing; Emotional Awareness

A Process of Healing One Man at a Time
from Journeyman; a MirrorMan Films documentary

"If we do not initiate the boys, they will burn the village down." African proverb

To achieve authentic manhood, men and boys must first learn nurture and validate themselves from the inside so that they can truly accept that they are good enough. But usually boys and men will need unconditional acceptance from the outside before they can incorporated that knowing into their core. The first step into this deeper world is learning and practicing emotional awareness. Men and boys need to know their own feelings and intuitions. Next comes a process of “uncovering” the soul from disabling family and cultural baggage. Here is where men and boys identify the masks they wear as well as the costs these masks have had. Now they have a chance to see themselves and their unique gifts in a deep way. With this clarity they can begin to get a more complex understanding of how the larger culture works, and how to integrate their gifts into the new world they see. This leaves them free and empowered to give services to society that spring naturally from honoring their own creative calls. They can balance this with a realistic understanding of limitations and responsibilities.


In the ManKind Project, men take up a space to learn these very tools, as stated above. This is not voodoo or magic; it's the way boys learn to be men.

Being emotionally aware means you stop and listen to your feelings, your heart, and your intention before you "burn down the village." It means you are accountable for your actions; not from the outside, but from within yourself. In yourself is where real accountability lies.

What are you waiting for?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf



"A woman simply is, but a man must become. Masculinity is risky and elusive. It is achieved by a revolt from woman, and it is confirmed only by other men. Manhood coerced into sensitivity is no manhood at all."

Camille Paglia


Now, I can't speculate on what makes a women; that's for women to determine and it is none of my business. Though, I can agree with men must become men. It is a revolt against the energy that is mother; as that is our most intimate connection to the feminine.

Only men can accompany the boy to manhood. Men are boys who have made the transition into manhood. This is no task for the faint of heart. Boys are strong, courageous, and clever. Boys must be guided with love and fierceness into manhood.

There are many men out there in the world who are boys awaiting the transition to manhood. They struggle to stand in a place of man-strength that honors all and understands change and eldership. These boy-men often fight against their own aging and the aged; essentially becoming king killers without even knowing it.

Are you a man longing for an honorable transition into manhood? Are you ready to take the leap of faith that other men have the energy and focus to hold space for you to become a man?

The New Warrior Training Adventure waits for you. Men are waiting for you.

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf