From the book "The Four Agreements" by don Miguel Ruiz:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
This seems simple enough...four steps to a better life, right?
I have been reading this little book with great interest. I see it parallels my work in the ManKind Project in many ways.
Will change occur when you step into a place of responsibility and integrity? You bet your ass it can?
The question is do you want to change or stay in a place of "victim" or "I can't because...." or "I am too small to make a difference"?
Walk with me and the other men in the ManKind Project and see what it looks like to be in a place of responsibility and integrity.