6.23.2005

Daddy, what did you do in the men's movement?

My take on an article by Paul Zakrzewski as it appeared in the Boston Globe online on 6.19.2005 entitled "Daddy, what did you do in the men's movement?"

I have snipped out parts that I will comment on, but I suggest you read the entire article.

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Today, however, the drums have largely fallen silent. While there are still weekend retreats - for example, the ManKind Project, which boasts more than two-dozen centers worldwide, conducts ''New Warrior Training Adventures" for some 3,000 men every year - these are mostly affairs for the already initiated.
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There are 38 centers. As far as the statement about "these are mostly affairs for the already initiated," well this mistates what the NWTA is about. The NWTA is an initiatory weekend. You can only do it once. So, to say it is mostly for the already initiated is not correct.


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Unlike the Promise Keepers, which held weekly check-in sessions, there was no follow-up work done once participants left their weekend retreats. ''It was an event, a spectacle," says Michael Kimmel, professor of sociology at SUNY Stony Brook and the author of ''Manhood in America," a 1997 cultural history of masculinity. ''You were supposed to be changed by it and then go home."
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This is not true in regards to the ManKind Project. I judge you will be changed, and when you go home, in the very next next week you can start attending a follow-up, weekly, integraton group. Not just for a while, either. As long as you need or want to. I am in my 3rd year in the second of two iGroups (the first, I spent 1 year in).


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What's more, the movement itself could never get beyond the fact that unlike the feminist movement - which itself had lost steam by the 1990s, as women achieved more economic and financial power - Bly and his followers never had any clear political agenda to drive them forward.
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I have heard this before. It is true for me; the men's movement isn't about politics or an agenda. It's about being the man you were intended to be. Of course, the media had a field day with this, but it was no surprise.


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Even if we're not likely to see maverick poets and Jungian therapists on television specials and magazine covers again any time soon, one thing is clear. The Bly-style men's movement highlighted a powerful urge for men to commune with each other that persists today, even among those who wouldn't be caught dead within miles of a drumming circle.
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Yep, men need to be around other men. You got that right. I need to be around men who are honest with me and the other men around them. I need men to stand in their integrity and responsibilty. The men I find in MKP are working that model.

Are you ready to work that model?

I'm out.
Old-faithful Wolf

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